There are a few different types of harnesses, but when shopping for one the most important thing is to find one that fits. Standard dildos can be worn inside a harness for strap-on play. The best strapless strap-on on the market is hands down - or should I say hands-free - the Fun Factory Share. “So don’t hesitate to reduce the strain by also wearing a harness over the top,” she says. Note: While the name of this toy implies you should be able to wear it harness-free, “thrusting while trying to hold the toy inside your own body is incredibly taxing on the pelvic floor muscles,” says sex educator Cassandra Corrado.
“They can also be worn by somebody who wants to jack themselves using something phallic, or receive a blow job,” she adds. “Strapless strap-ons are ergonomically designed so that one partner can wear the toy and experience a sensation of fullness while also thrusting into a partner,” Finn explains. While double-ended dildos are typically U- or I-shaped, strapless strap-ons are L-shaped. Sometimes the terms “strapless strap-on” and “double-ended dildo” are used interchangeably, but they’re pretty different. Money-saving hack: You can make your own double-ended dildo with a double-sided suction cup. “Depending on the shape, double-ended dildos allow you to experiment with double penetration either in the same hole, or in different holes, for a sense of fullness,” Finn explains, “or to experience extra-deep insertion.” Usually 12 to 24 inches long, some look like two dildos fused together (like the Lovehoney Ice Gem) and others are U-shaped (like the Ruse double dildo). Some have little textured nubs and bumps.” Double-ended dildosĪs you might guess, this dildo iteration features a head at both ends. “Some have more pronounced heads and are super veiny. There’s also a variety of textured details you might experiment with once you’ve confirmed that you enjoy dildo play or penetration. Textured dildosĬhanging the material the dildo is made out of to vary the sensation - for example, a dildo made out of stainless steel will be heavier than one made out of silicone, and therefore increase the sensation of fullness - isn’t the only way to alter the texture. If you’re planning to use it to peg, opt for a slim, texture-free dildo, like the Tantus Silk small (or medium) dildo.Īnd if you’re looking for a dildo that looks like a biological penis, it doesn’t get better than New York Toy Collective’s Carter or Leroy. Why? Because then you can attach it to a shower wall and ride it the way you might if a partner was involved. If you’re planning on using the dildo during solo sex, Finn recommends a dildo with a suction cup base, like the Avant P1 Pride Freedom dildo. Safety note: It’s only safe to put a dildo in your bum if it has a flared base that’s bigger than the widest part of the dildo.
She adds that a standard dildo can be used by hand or worn in a harness to stimulate these spots. “There are so many internal hot spots in the body, including the G-spot and A-spot in vulva owners and P-spot in people with penises,” Finn says. What the heck makes a dildo, well, a dildo? According to Lisa Finn, a sex educator at sex toy boutique Babeland, “A dildo is anything phallic-shaped, or vaguely phallic-shaped, that’s designed to penetrate a vagina, anus, or mouth.” Standard dildosĪlso known as single-ended dildos, standard dildos most resemble biological penises in shape and function.